昨夜FC給我看一篇報章散文，是回應晚餐時遇到發噪音的人，使我們內心都有些噪音，今作一點反省。
心事 - 素黑 - 素黑振頻 (2011年07月04日)
有些人，你跟他不用多說甚麼，價值觀，智商相若，振頻一致，和他一起無論戀愛、共事、聊天、分享甚麼也是愉快的，從能量學上談，和這些人一起能保存你的精力，無需不必要的解釋或說服，不用重複自己的立場，不用理順對方的雜亂，不用花精力細心照顧或治療對方的情緒混亂..........和相反的人共處、共事，你將花幾倍精力，勞心勞累，老是要重複自己的想法和立場，要替對方糾正散亂無章的記憶，還要照顧對方動不動感到委屈，會哭，感受先於一切，自我大於一切的脆弱。和這種人相處會很累，除了要多花精力解釋自己，說服對方，還要當他的治療師，先安撫他感情用事的多餘感性，暫停他的眼淚。天，真疲累，你會細想，有必要和他相處或共事下去嗎？這種關係值得保留嗎，抑或放棄好過一點。保持覺知，盡量不做為別人添麻煩的人，已很有成就。再進一步，就是調校自己的頻振，這是物理現象，也是我們能改善自己的自療方向。自己心亂，意亂，細胞發出來的振頻也會亂，製造不穩定腦波，干擾身邊的人，令人不安。情緒不穩的人，只會為別人帶來干擾，害多於愛。
回應：的確，當遇到一些噪音時，心靈空間會被侵佔，有一種不同的振頻，是反彈的振頻的一種。若我們想找尋片刻的安靜，吃一頓寧靜的晚餐，就好像到了樂園；另一刻，走進一些干擾的振頻來，使樂園变了廢墟；原來這个突如其來的，那么豈有此理的人或事，是要試驗人性的弱點；當我們作出合理的反動或回响，認為不平則鳴時，便更認識自已裏頭是愛得不足。
詩37.1 不要為作惡的心懷不平，也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。
心中懷了不平，就會有許多砂粒，急躁、惱恨、嫉妒、無禮得-----嵌進來，叫你失去生活中謙和的香氣。
或者當我們認識主耶穌更多時，便學習怎樣與更多不同樣貌，與自己很不同的人相處。
正如昔日主耶穌與不同的人相處一樣。(或者可以這么說我們同是罪人。)
太5:46「你們若單愛那愛你們的人，有甚麼賞賜呢？就是稅吏不也是這樣行麼？
太5:47 你們若單請你弟兄的安，比人有甚麼長處呢？就是外邦人不也是這樣行麼？
太5:48 所以，你們要完全，像你們的天父完全一樣。」
正因我們的軟弱與不完全，以致我們更要認識主耶穌為至寶。
我們有否怱略了噪音背後的一些自我自私，而忘卻了更大的誡命與更大的使命？求主赦免。
今午午餐後與FC一同散步返公司時，不期然地唱了數句『讓我愛』，當中歌詞是一種激勵。
.....讓我學習祢那樣完全。
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j1Taf8gk0kA&feature=related
Recently, I have got a very bad and tough time with our team. Two senior team members join together to attack me publicly in a team meeting. The blame has no basis but they just step on me for foolishness and humiliation. What they say is to make others consider me irresponsible, careless, inconsiderate and unprofessional to the tasks...... Obviously, I feel very angry and upset. However, in the grace and mercy of the God, I was calm down in front of the Lord and seek no further argument face to face in the meeting. I have done my part and they do nothing for their own, but, they can make unreasonable and aggressive accusation for others for “non-proven and unjustified” errors or non-conformance in their own view of unfairness and subjective bias. That is part of real life examples in workplace environment in some difficult cases.
回覆刪除Then, the loving God reminds me and encourages me with the life example of Lord Jesus when He determines to go forwards the path of the Cross as guided by the Father God. What Lord Jesus sacrifices, suffers and endures up to the dead is all out of His greatest love for us. He always remains quiet, silent, passive and submissive to all ordeals and attacks. For Him, all attacks come directly to Him and onto Him as they are. He does not go away or avoid but just to face it, right face to face, without reservation. Why, Lord Jesus, do not do anything, say anything, or even turn away from all attacks, both physically (externally) and mentally (internally), He gets from His enemies. In simple words, Lord Jesus takes it all, completely all for the full cup of curse for us in sin and death.
If I look at myself with the situation and suffering and ordeals that have laid in front of Lord Jesus, I must say and remind myself, “What I face and suffer is nothing as compared with Lord Jesus in His journey of the Cross....”
Now, I read a very inspiring article from Arthur with encouragement from the life example of Watchman Nee. In our life, we may meet others in very difficult situation with very stingy, bitter, sour, and friction relationship. All these hurt us and disappoint us very much deep in our fragile and collapsing heart. We feel so bad and sad that we cannot even sleep well, think well and live well. We struggle with dark mind and hatred heart for revenge and fight back for victory of our own. But, do you know that we are also unable to see clearly ourselves and be blind to see our own mistakes at the same time? One thing I find I am lost and wrong in the process of confrontation is lacking of God love to respond in godly ways and at the same time, do not recognise, admit and accept the mistake I also commit into throughout the relationship fighting. I also forget, “I am human and I am weak and so, I can make mistakes too in the same situation......” I am not humble, modest and pure enough in my heart to see the imperfect true self of my own... I can judge others easily but I am unable to judge myself in fair and righteous manner.
Today, I learn to practise the God’s love. Instead of complaining and grumbling in heart, I share a yummy walnut cake during the morning tea time with the team by handing and distributing the cake to team face to face, one by one in smile. They ask, “Any good reason to share the delicious cake with us. Is it your birthday?” My gentle and happy reply simply is, “I just wish you to have a good day for today. Please enjoy it.”
If we have struggles in relationship either in your home, or workplace or other places, please calm down yourself, seek the life reflection inside your heart and soul in the love, grace and mercy of the loving God. I am sure the God will tell you the true answer and give you the positive and hopeful ways out....
Peter
Silence, calmness and patience.
回覆刪除彼前3:9 不以惡報惡，以辱罵還辱罵，倒要祝福；因你們是為此蒙召，好叫你們承受福氣。 Do not return evil for evil or reviling for reviling; but on the contrary bless, for to this you have been called, that you may obtain a blessing.
彼前3:10 因為經上說：人若愛生命，願享美福，須要禁止舌頭不出惡言，嘴唇不說詭詐的話； For "He that would love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking guile;
彼前3:11 也要離惡行善，尋求和睦，一心追趕。 let him turn away from evil and do right; let him seek peace and pursue it.
彼此守望
Arthur